The tale of an abuser

28/03/2010

Talking about victim, what happened in a sex scandal involving churches in Germany and the United States recently, is interesting. More surprisingly is a story of a leading priest in committing molest and sodomy on children under the supervision of his church.

Cases of sex-abuse and abnormal sex habit are getting rampant and even involved renowned figures. What come into our mind why is that there are influential people more so with thick religious image have the audacity to commit such despicable act.

It reminds Awang of a book written by Debbie Ford entitled “Why Do Good People Do Bad Things.” In one of the chapters, he touched on the characteristic of certain person which is considered as abusers.
He said the features that made abusers the most dangerous group is their capability to camouflage. The group will be using a combination of cover up to mask their activities including as leader and religious figures.
Debbie had warned – be alert against abusers. They are good at manipulating stories to the point that it become convincing to themselves and to others that they are talking the truth.

According to the book “People of the lie” written by M. Scott Peck, among the evil features of an abuser is to create confusion. Abusers can change the situation that turn into their favour by manipulating the victim to believe that they are in trouble or worse than that.

They tell lie and then turn around accusing you of lying. Among their weapons are their deceptive tendency and their skill at manipulating whatever issues. They believe that the abuse that they had committed is the mistake of the victims themselves.
Among us, who are those categorized as abusers?

http://www.utusan.com.my/utusan/special.asp?pr=theMessenger&y=2010&dt=0328&pub=theMessenger&sec=Bisik-bisik_Weekly&pg=bw_03.htm 

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Effect on Life due to Online Obsession

Korean couple became obsessed with raising virtual baby while their real infant daughter lay abandoned and unfed

South Korean police have arrested a couple for starving their three-month-old daughter to death while they devoted hours to playing a computer game that involved raising a virtual character of a young girl.

The 41-year-old man and 25-year-old woman, who met through a chat website, reportedly left their infant unattended while they went to internet cafes. They only occasionally dropped by to feed her powdered milk.

"I am sorry for what I did and hope that my daughter does not suffer any more in heaven," the husband is quoted as saying on the asiaone website.

According to the Yonhap news agency, South Korean police said the couple had become obsessed with raising a virtual girl called Anima in the popular role-playing game Prius Online. The game, similar to Second Life, allows players to create another existence for themselves in a virtual world, including getting a job, interacting with other users and earning an extra avatar to nurture once they reach a certain level.

"The couple seemed to have lost their will to live a normal life because they didn't have jobs and gave birth to a premature baby," Chung Jin-Won, a police officer, told Yonhap. "They indulged themselves in the online game of raising a virtual character so as to escape from reality, which led to the death of their real baby."

Last September after a 12-hour gaming-session the couple came home in the morning to find their daughter dead. The baby's malnourished body aroused police suspicions of neglect that were was confirmed after an autopsy.

The couple fled to the wife's parents' house in Yangju, Gyeonggi province, but were picked up on Monday. The case has shocked South Korea and once again highlighted obsessive behaviour related to the internet.

A 22-year-old Korean man was charged last month with murdering his mother because she nagged him for spending too much time playing games. After killing her the man went to a nearby internet cafe and continued with his game, said officials. In 2005 a young man collapsed in an internet cafe in the city of Taegu after playing the game StarCraft almost continuously for 50 hours. He went into cardiac arrest and died at a local hospital.

Lee Joung-sun, an MP from the ruling Grand National party, last month submitted a bill restricting the hours offered to online gamers. Several bills are pending in the national assembly suggesting restrictions on teenagers' use of internet cafes and games.

Research published last month in the UK showed evidence of a link between excessive internet use and depression. Leeds University researchers, writing in the Psychopathology journal, said a small proportion of internet users were classed as internet addicts and that people in this group were more likely to be depressed than non-addicted users.

Original title: Girl starved to death while parents raised virtual child in online game
By Mark Tran
Friday 5 March 2010 17.03 GMT
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/mar/05/korean-girl-starved-online-game

-Rad: This posting does not mean to expose other mistake, just as precaution to us to avoid the unexpected mistake from happen to us.

Tiger Power - Kaziranga National Park

Date: 19 May, 2004... True Story behind the Kaziranga National Park - Tiger Attack - The Complete Video.

The forest department was combing the area with five elephants to locate a large female tiger which had killed two cows near their village. The team cautiously moved almost 20 feet where she was growling away. They took a shot at it with a dart gun and missed. This enraged the tiger so much that she charged and took a "flying" leap 12 feet above the ground on to the elephant's head. What's even more amazing is what happened next.



The moral from this incident, don't ever think that we are safe just because we have a big friend.